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    How to Set Healthy Boundaries

    By Dr. Peter Dobias, DVM

    Dr. Peter Dobias, DVM has 30 years of experience as a veterinarian. His love of dogs and passion for natural healing and nutrition led him to writing, teaching and helping people create health naturally, without drugs, chemicals and processed food.

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    Does your dog demand your attention, even when you've got something else you have to do? What about your family or friends? Do you feel guilty when you can’t give them all of the attention they ask for?

    It's a common struggle for us all — setting and maintaining healthy boundaries can be tough! But here's the thing, nearly all conflicts, arguments, and misunderstandings are rooted in boundary issues.

    It's just human (and doggy) nature to test the limits and cross boundaries, or perhaps it is an evolutionary survival strategy.

    The problem is that most of us aren't very good at communicating what our boundaries are.

    For example, have you ever thrown a toy for your pup to fetch, only to have them expect it every time you go to the park? What about begging for food at the table? Maybe you've asked a friend to stop bringing you junk food, but they keep doing it anyway, or you've asked to be removed from a company’s mailing list, and the unsolicited emails kept coming. These are all examples of boundary issues.

    Many people cross boundaries without even realizing it, which may leave us thinking, "Ugh, why don't they just get it?" We often expect others to magically know what our boundaries are, but let's be real, that's just not possible — unless they can read minds!

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    In order to avoid unpleasant situations, we must learn to clearly communicate our boundaries so that everyone is on the same page.

    It can be tough to set boundaries, especially when you're worried about hurting someone's feelings or losing a friend. But the best approach is to be clear and firm, even if it's uncomfortable. 

    For instance, let's say you're at a dinner party, and you've had enough food and wine, but your host keeps refilling your plate and glass. You might say something like, "Thanks so much, it was delicious, but I'm actually quite full, and I don't want any more. I really appreciate your generosity, though!"

    We all make mistakes when it comes to boundaries, so don't be afraid to be firm but polite when communicating your limits. Just remember to be mindful and respectful of other people's boundaries too. 

    The bottom line: 

    1. Be kind, clear, and firm when setting your boundaries
    2. Don’t be afraid to repeat yourself if someone keeps crossing the line

    With a little practice and patience, I'll wager that your personal and work life will be transformed! 🐶❤️



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    Dr. Peter Dobias, DVM has 30 years of experience as a veterinarian. He graduated as a Doctor of Veterinary Medicine in 1988 in the Czech Republic and obtained the Canadian Certificate of Qualification in 1995. He is currently licensed in the European Union, and his unique approach to healing and nutrition helps holistically minded dog lovers worldwide.

    Dr. Dobias strongly believes that disease prevention, natural nutrition and supplements, the right exercise and a drug free approach to medicine can add years to your dog's life.

    As a formulator of his all-natural vitamin and supplement line and co-inventor of natural, chemical free flea and tick control, FleaHex® and TickHex®, his unique healing system and products currently hold the highest independent five star customer rating. For more information click here.

    Any general recommendations that Dr. Dobias makes are not a substitute for the appropriate veterinary care and are for informational and educational purposes only.

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